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Sunday, 12 February 2012

Book Review - Refuse To Choose By Barbara Sher

Have you always wondered why you get bored easily, never stick to anything for long periods of time, quickly lose interest in things or change your mind about what you want to do and end up doing nothing? Good news: according to Barbara Sher's book you might just be a 'scanner'.

Summary

Barbara Sher brings us closer to a type of person who, just as described above, doesn't follow the traditional 'find out what you want, get a career and follow it with might and passion for the rest of your life' scheme.

More in details

The subtitle of this book is 'A Revolutionary Programme for Doing All That You Love' and alludes to the fact that scanners often find themselves arguing about not being able to choose one thing and stick with it. Barbara suggests otherwise: Refuse to choose.

The author identifies seven types of scanners, divided into two groups: cyclical scanners and sequential scanners. The first 3 belong to the cyclical scanners:
Double Agent: These are people who have fantasies of being two people, one who does the right thing and another who is free to live their dreams.Sybil: This is someone who has many areas of interest and they return to these over and over but rarely finish anything.Plate Spinner: They are energized by having many things going on at the same time, they love solving problems but all of this leaves little time for any of their own projects.

The cyclical scanners know what their interests are, unlike the sequential scanners who always discover a completely new interest. The following six types belong to the sequential scanners:
Serial Specialist: They often excel at whatever field they are in, commit completely but then, often when on top of their game, quit and start something new.Serial Master: For these people, interests come and go, but the love of mastery always stays. Once they have mastered something, they go looking for a new project.Jack-of-all-Trades: Jacks enjoy learning for its own sake. They are usually not passionate about any one career but the love of learning something new and helping people.Wanderer: This is someone who loves random experiences and allow themselves to move toward whatever looks attractive and interesting.Sampler: These people look for a special kind of richness in their lives and find that there are very few ways to fill it.High-Speed Indecisive: They are maybe the most misunderstood of all Scanners as the get pulled away to something new sooner than any other, but not because they lost interest, rather because they see something more fascinating.

Besides the in-depth description of the different types of scanners, Barbara also shares many valuable tools and techniques that will make scanners lives easier.

About the author

Beside being an author of six self-help books Barbara Sher is also a motivational speaker, workshop leader, business owner and has collected much experience working as a counselor, working with many scanners. In addition to that she has appeared both on national and local radio and television, including shows like Oprah, Today, 60 Minutes and Good Morning America. She lives in New York City.

Recommendation

This is a great book if you feel that you might be a scanner, have lived your life wondering: Why is it that everyone finds their passion but I can't seem to find it, start and stop many projects or never finish anything?

In my work with clients I have found it extremely valuable to assist people in finding their freedom and passion through the realization that they achieve by reading this book.

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Nathalie Himmelrich is the founder of 'Reach for the Sky Therapy' on Sydney's Northern Beaches and specialises in 'relationship related issues'. She is working with individuals and couples using techniques ranging from Counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming to Journey Therapy. She supports clients in their personal growth in a supportive and professional environment.

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Book Review - Next Stop, Reloville By Peter T Kilborn

Relocation always brings challenges and Peter Kilborn writes a journalistic account of a special segment of people who move: families who are required to move in order to keep their jobs or maintain career growth. They earn high incomes by most standards - $100,000 - $400,000 - and their companies move them lavishly. One company even flew the wife's mother to babysit with the children while the couple went on a househunting trip.

These families represent middle and upper management. None was described as a CEO but some were VPs of mid-sized companies. Some worked in cubicles.

Author Kilborn focuses on the impact of moving on family dynamics. His approach is typical of contemporary journalism: focus on a handful of families in depth and chronicle every aspect of their lives that might remotely relate to moving. Thus we have children who start over in school, wives who volunteer, husbands who are away from home for long periods. We see variations from one family to the next but as I read, their stories blended together.

Kilborn notes the pressure to conform. For instance, these families need to buy homes with high resale value, so they tend to seek new homes in new neighborhoods. As a result, older neighborhoods fall into decline.

We see how some families try to escape the pressures. One family was thrilled to find a home outside a homeowners association. Surprisingly few get divorced; one woman is shown in front of her new antique store, which she opened after divorcing her mobile husband and remarrying.

This book describes a small, privileged sliver of corporate America. And, although the book's subtitle refers to a "new" rootless professional class, I don't think it's all that new. I remember when IBM used to stand for "I've Been Moved." If anything, I'm hearing that companies are cutting back because spouses now enter the picture.

And that's my major quibble with this book. Are all members of this corporate America male and married? The book finds one young single woman who talks about the difficulties of getting a boyfriend. But I've known single and divorced women over 40 who reported enormous problems fitting into this mobile class. One woman moved into a nice neighborhood; after all, she earned a good salary and she could easily afford a big house. Her female neighbors were threatened at first. They actually worried she would chase their husbands (as if she had time or inclination).

The book doesn't address other issues, such as relocating professionals who are gay, non-Christian, or of another race. In these Relovilles, will these people stand out? Will they be ostracized? Or are these towns so filled with corporate execs who have higher tolerance than longer-dwelling residents of these small towns?

Ultimately I'm not sure what we are supposed to learn from this book. Wisely, the author chooses not to draw lessons and move to the self-help genre. Perhaps the ultimate lesson is to choose a career where you are self-employed or where you just don't have to move. You might sacrifice the big pay checks (or not), but you will gain the most valuable commodity: time. And if you do choose this path, nobody can say Kilborn didn't warn you.

Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D., has written a book about relocation. This book deals with the stresses and psychological challenges common to a variety of people who relocate - not just corporate families. This book includes challenges of being single, moving on a shoestring, and finding new friends. Download immediately at http://www.relocationstrategy.com/

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Brilliant Treatise on Future of Psychology - Book Review of "Humanizing Madness" by Niall McLaren

"Humanizing Madness" is an intriguing and insightful book into the nature of psychiatry, although it may not be aptly titled. The book does discuss psychiatry and the cognitive neurosciences, but more specifically its purpose is to discuss what is currently wrong with the major theories in psychiatry and to suggest a theory that will provide a future path for psychiatry to follow. This book may not be for the beginner in psychiatry, but students of psychiatry will find it a valuable alternative view on what they may otherwise be taught in university programs without questioning many of psychiatry's outdated and as McLaren expresses, ineffective and flawed theories which tend to disagree with each other anyway.

McLaren divides "Humanizing Madness" into three sections, the first giving an overview of psychiatry, its history and theories. Then he demonstrates what theories can be used to create a focused future path for psychiatry, and finally, he discusses mental disorders, such as anxiety, depression, and anorexia and how changes need to be made in their definitions and understanding to bring about more effective diagnoses.

Among the theories McLaren shows as severely flawed are behaviorist models, psychoanalysis, and eclectic models of psychiatry. Most importantly, McLaren states that no real foundational theory exists for psychiatry. While definitions of mental disorder exist, no real definition of mental order or normality has been determined. Until it is determined what a normal mental state is, psychiatry cannot accurately determine what is a mental disorder.

To determine what is the suitable definition of mental disorder and normality, the field must be narrowed down to being based on specific tenets. McLaren makes clear that psychiatry must focus on being rational, understanding that human behavior is not random, and that any theory of the mind must be able to account for mental disorder. He rejects simple ideas that mental disorders result from chemical imbalances, although he spends considerable time arguing that the mind can affect the body. (Whatever the mind is, the definition for which he also debates).

In the end, McLaren's thesis is that "human behavior is the outcome of a complex interaction between an emergent mind and the physical body." While psychiatry has focused on depression as the most popular mental disorder, McLaren believes the focus should be on anxiety, which is the result of the "fight or flight" instinct in most creatures; traumatic events that cause anxiety can lead to depression, so consequently anxiety deserves to be studied as a source of depression. McLaren emphasizes that the human mind does affect the human body, as in cases of mass hysteria, anxiety, and fear that create panic attacks.

Ultimately, McLaren says that any theory of the mind has to provide a rational explanation of mental disorder. He boldly speaks his mind throughout the book, backing up his points with multiple examples, and he is not afraid to cry "Humbug!" when necessary. McLaren has been practicing psychiatry since 1977 in Australia. His discussion of his own education and the shortcomings of the education system he went through as well as weaknesses in current psychiatric practices demonstrate that psychiatry has many more steps to take before it is a completely effective science. I believe "Humanizing Madness" may well lead to a new understanding of mental illness in future years as younger psychiatrists read his book and follow his example in rejecting the ineffective theories he derides.

For more information about Niall McLaren and "Humanizing Madness," readers may visit http://www.LovingHealing.com While this book is academic and not light reading, anyone interested in the mind will benefit from reading "Humanizing Madness," and students of psychiatry will find it invaluable.

Tyler R. Tichelaar, Ph.D., author of The Marquette Trilogy

Tyler R. Tichelaar holds a Bachelor's and Master's Degree from Northern Michigan University and a Ph.D. from Western Michigan University. His family's long relationship with Upper Michigan and his avid interest in genealogy inspired Dr. Tichelaar to write his Marquette Trilogy: Iron Pioneers, The Queen City, and Superior Heritage. Dr. Tichelaar is also a professional book reviewer and editor. For more information about Tyler R. Tichelaar, his writing, and his author services, visit:
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Persuasion Expert Reveals How to Become an Expert Persuader in Twenty Days Review

Persuasion expert Michael Lee reveals in his new book, "How to Become an Expert Persuader in 20 Days" powerful and if acted upon, life changing secrets. This is truly not hype or any sort of marketing tactic, but as someone who has read this book and been instantly changed by the real results it has inspired through the power of the content locked in its pages, I felt it was my duty as an author to give this book a review so that others can see how they too can become an expert of persuasion.

Michael Lee goes in depth in his book revealing actual case study statistics taken from psycho-social scientific experiments where the human behavioral system and mind is dissected and laid bare in critical detail and then explained in such a way that communicates understanding to the simplest of readers like myself.

Such laws of persuasion and how to use them to your advantage are taught step by step such as:

*Commitment and its power in not just every day relationships but how it can increase sales in business beginning immediately is revealed with examples and real life case studies that show how you can put it to work for you now.

*Reciprocation and how to really put it to work for you on a massive scale is shown with examples.

*Herd mentality and how to recognize it and also how to use it for your own advantage while helping others is covered.

*Communication in words and body language and how just using certain words and asking questions can turn situations overwhelmingly into your favor everytime is explained so easily.

*Love relationships with the opposite sex exposed and how to become the man or woman of your dreamlover's dreams is given in step by step detail. This is really powerful stuff.

*The secret to getting a promotion at work is given and once you see how easy this is to use right away and why it works, you'll laugh your way to a higher pay check.

There are literally over 20 chapters in this book and each of them give a gift of years of experience and in depth study from the masters of persuasion.

To tell you the truth, I think I was even persuaded subconsciously somehow to write this review even though the book is even better than I can describe it and a tremendous gift to give yourself and those you care about at any price, a real investment with returns several hundred fold.

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Saturday, 11 February 2012

Book Review of "What's Happening to My Teen?" by Mark Gregston

What's Happening to My Teen? [Soft cover]

by Mark Gregston

224 pages, $13.99

ISBN-13: 978-0736924443

Nonfiction

Review by Steven King, MBA, MEd

When children are young, they want their parents to enjoy playtime with them. Daughters are princesses and sons are the princes of their families. A delightful afternoon can be spent making mud pies in the back yard. Refrigerators and social networking sites are quickly adorned with every treasure discovered.

Then...around age 12-13, something dreadful happens. Independence looms. The one who was content to play in the backyard suddenly realizes they are not grafted to you. And to the chagrin of many fathers, the opposite sex takes on new meaning in the eyes of our children.

Perhaps you are like myriad of parents before you who are struggling, asking themselves, "What happened? How come my child wants nothing to do with me anymore?" Moving from hero to zero is one of the most deflating experiences any parent can experience.

Mark Gregston believes he can answer this question. In his What's Happening to My Teen, he attempts to share insights from his 30-year involvement with teenagers. Moving from his beginnings in youth ministry, he and his wife opened Heartlight, a residential treatment center for boys and girls in Hallsville, Texas. Since 1989, he has worked with thousands of teens who have struggled with issues of lying, selfishness, depression, or disrespect for authority. His presentation is the through the eyes of numerous "teens," from which he shares particular insight. For instance, the difficulty and transition a seven-year-old Chad experienced when his parents divorced.

While Gregston offers good insight about adolescent behavior, his book reads like an indictment of parenthood. Throughout much of the book, he is quick to point out that what parents label as rebellion, for instance, is really just "normal" behavior for any given teen. Gregston's approach to education is a little naïve, as he insinuates that frequently the problem lies with the school's inability to reach the student, instead of the student's inability to conform to the wishes of the school.

Other than that, his insight about the harmful effects of insulating students who are primarily homeschooled is perhaps some of the best instruction this writer has ever come across. Inappropriate insulation from the "real world" can, and does, have catastrophic consequences.

If your teen is out of control and you have come to the end of your rope - read this book. It might inform you about what has happened to your teen.


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Friday, 10 February 2012

Book Review - "Optimizing the Infinite Mind" by Prof Erantha De Mel

Prof. Erantha De Mel in his latest book "Optimizing the Infinite Mind" offers a cogent expose of the human mind processes. It explains how to reprogram the thought patterns and thinking styles to obtain the desired results in life; and also it offers a technology for creating change. The book explains very lucidly how patterns of thoughts, emotions, and behavior are created and how we develop habits and mental programs over a period of time. Habits are not formed overnight. When we do the same thing over and over again - over a period of time, we form a habit. Our thoughts are also habits. All of us have the capacity to consider ways to re-program our minds and create new neurological pathways to achieve success.

Prof. Erantha De Mel is the founder of the Neural Optimization Technique. He is an internationally acclaimed Cognitive Neuroscientist and was the recipient of the Cambridge Blue Book Man of the Year award 2005 for his contribution to the field of Neuroscience and Cybernetics. As a practicing psychologist and researcher, in both psychology and parapsychology; he is engaged in extensive research in both fields and is a scholar with original research into Altered States of Consciousness and Psycho-Cybernetics. The Neural Optimization Technique (NeuralOpTech) provides multiple applications for business modeling, counseling, psychology, management development, sports performance, and many more. This technique also provides a way out of old habits, fears, limiting beliefs, and gives a structure for new and empowering ways of being in the world. Some people simply breathe the air; others savor the fragrance and tang in each and every breath they take. Some people look out at a landscape and see cliffs, valleys, fields and streams; others see minute details of life, climate, and splendor. "There are no facts in life. We have only perceptions" - Prof. De Mel says in his book. What we perceive is a fact for us.

Very effectively he addresses issues such as self-sabotage (sabotaging one's own success), refining self-perception (what you believe about yourself), and receiving what you expect from your life (manifestation of intent). The techniques described in this book help one to disentangle and re-define life-situations; and to clarify feelings and thoughts to his or her own advantage. It provides new resources to move forward proactively and positively. He shows how to practice positive emotional states on a daily basis, and how to manifest one's expectations in life. "If one practices feeling 'happy' everyday in his life, it is easier to feel happy" he says; because that person is practicing it, affirming it, and creating it. That's why it is so important to choose happiness as the predominant state of mind. On the contrary, if one is feeling depressed and low, and if that person keeps practicing going back to that depression - invariably, it will create depression in him.

The book describes how to examine the validity of your thought processes that is important in altering your thoughts. "In finding the validity of your thoughts, you need to defend and produce evidence that the bases for your thoughts are true. If you are unable to meet this challenge, the faulty nature of your thoughts is exposed. Your thoughts are also habits. When you think in the same way over-and-over again - over a period of time, such thought processes become habits. In other words, they become "automatic" thought processes. When engaged in irrational thinking, instead of reacting to the reality of a situation, an individual tends to react to his or her own distorted viewpoint of the situation. For instance, a person may conclude that he is "worthless" simply because he failed an exam or a job interview. It is important to identify such distorted thinking patterns, or cognitive distortions, and change or restructure them in a realistic manner."

This book is written with minimum technical terminology, having the average reader in mind. The information that is provided is excellent and invaluable in personality development and attitudinal change. It is a "must read" book!

BOOK FACTS:
Title: Optimizing the Infinite Mind
Author: Erantha De Mel
Publisher: Meli Inc. USA
Paperback: 552 pages
ISBN-10: 0982046200
ISBN-13: 978-0982046203
Reader Rating: +++++

Reviewed by Dr. Jeanne Oswald


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A Complete Review of Social Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

This is a book review of Daniel Goleman's Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships.

Goleman in his groundbreaking book reveals that neural linkages between humans influence the brain and the body. These invisible bridges give us the ability to change people's moods, emotions, and health - as these people can do to us. Relationships not only shape emotional states and general psychological experience, but also the very physiological matter that makes our body. Our interactions with people influences our immune system, circulation, hormones, and breathing for example.

Neuroscience is quickly discovering that humans are wired to connect. Our ability to connect with fellow humans influences us in deep and immediate ways. Unlike emotional intelligence, social intelligence focuses on this intimate connection between two human minds. Goleman's Emotional Intelligence focuses on skills and capabilities within the individual. It deals with self-motivation, self-awareness, handling anxiety, and reading social cues.

Social Intelligence expands from the one-person psychology within an individual to a two-person psychology that looks at the connection shared between individuals. More specifically, Goleman defines social intelligence as:
1) Social awareness, which comprises of primal empathy, attunement, empathic accuracy, and social cognition, and
2) Social facility, which includes synchrony, self-presentation, influence, and concern.

Goleman says many theories of social intelligence are narrowly defined to a cognitive context. Social intelligence tests ask participants what they would do in specific situations - a process that uses the brain's "high road" functions within our awareness. Goleman's model of social intelligence seeks to include the brain's low-road, the neural circuitry hidden from consciousness that functions at incredible speeds, because awareness of what people are thinking or feeling does not equate to healthy conversations. As the book's titles states: Social intelligence is beyond the intelligence quotient (I.Q.) and emotional intelligence.

Drawing on hundreds of studies, Social Intelligence looks into altruism, primal empathy, attachment, rapport, and compassion to name a few topics that are emerging from this new field of study. From the amygdala and prefrontal cortex to spindle cells and mirror neurons, like Emotional Intelligence, Goleman once again digs deep into neuroscience and vast numbers of studies. Again, he provides plenty of interesting anecdotes to demonstrate his principles in action, which to me gives the book more power for its application.

Chapter one reveals the emotional economy, a term that describes the give-take process of emotions. It discusses how a smile makes you happy, a worried looking face makes you unsure, and the biological process of how emotions transmit through people like a virus.

Joshua Uebergang, aka "Tower of Power", is a young communication skills coach, author, and owner of Tower of Power. He has written a more comprehensive review of Goleman's Social Intelligence, and written plenty of groundbreaking articles on emotional and social intelligence, which you can freely download right now at his site TowerOfPower.com.au


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Thursday, 9 February 2012

Book Review: Why Mars and Venus Collide by John Gray, PhD

Recently I've read the book, Why Mars and Venus Collide, Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress by John Gray, Ph.D. I absolutely loved the book! I must say, this is a much needed book for couples because it educates and gives insights and specific tips and strategies on dealing with stress in men and women.

The book explains how our brains are structured and function differently thus affecting our behavior. In a chapter called Hardwired to Be Different the author points out that "Men and women possess two different types of brains, designed equally for intelligent behavior". The main difference is that men have more gray matter than women do and women have more white matter than men do. This fact alone explains why we excel at different tasks and communicate differently. The chapter also points out why men are focused on one task at a time and women are multitasking, as well as why men are risk takers and women are conservative and prioritize security. Because of the fundamental difference in brain structure and function women should not expect men to behave like women and vice versa. We should respect these differences and work with each other keeping these differences in mind.

Another part of the book points out the difference in hormones and how it affects our behavior. Special emphasis is made on stress hormones and their effect on a man's and a woman's well being. Women generally need to focus on keeping their oxytocin levels up and men need to focus on keeping their testosterone levels up. The author gives a list of 100 ways a woman can raise her oxytocin levels and 100 ways a man can help a woman raise her oxytocin levels. I found the 90/10 solution for a woman to keep her feel-good hormone up especially revealing; this is something I always will keep in my mind. There are also tips on how a woman can help her man raise his testosterone levels.

Three chapters of the book the author dedicated to explaining why the fights start, what we can do to prevent them, how to stop a fight and how to make up after a fight. These chapters are loaded with helpful tips and suggestions. From now on I will keep in mind that "mixing feelings and problem solving simply doesn't work". The author suggests that we have two types of conversations -- one to lessen emotional tension, called Venus Talk, and the other to solve the problem.

I had several "Aha" moments while reading the book. This is the book I will be referring to to get answers and reminders on how to deal with stress and improve a relationship with my partner. Now I have a better understanding of our differences and what my partner and I need to effectively cope with stress. I know that applying the tips and strategies described in the book will help couples bring the best out of their partners.

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Book Review: Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy, By Lisa Wake

Copyright: 2008

Publisher: Routledge, London and New York; this is a book in their Advancing Theory in Therapy series, series editor Keith Tudor.

Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy by Lisa Wake is a well researched, extensively referenced, and scholarly examination of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and the advancing model of neurolinguistic psychotherapy. I enthusiastically recommend this book to clinicians, researchers, NLP practitioners, and anyone interested in advancing the science and theory of NLP. Little has been written in recent years about the application of NLP in psychotherapy. This book goes a long way toward filling that gap in the NLP literature and does so in a clear and compelling way.

Lisa Wake addresses numerous points that are crucial to establishing neuro-linguistic programming as an accepted psychotherapeutic methodology. Few books in recent years have linked NLP to the theoretical roots from which it arose and considered the implications of these connections to utilizing NLP processes in clinical work. This book is unique in examining the utility of NLP in the broader context of what needs to occur for people to realize behavioral and emotional change in psychotherapy. Her perspective illuminates and highlights how neurolinguistic principles can inform the understanding of the complexity of human subjective experience.

Wake critiques those who have made overly grand claims about NLP, as this has worked against establishing NLP as a scientifically validated methodology. Further, Wake raises concerns about the claims that oversimplify the multiple factors that contribute to behavior change. While NLP is a brief and effective model of therapy, she expresses concern about those who use techniques without consideration of contextual issues, such as the clinical nature of the problems addressed and the characteristics of the therapeutic relationship.

The book discusses the emergence of neurolinguistic psychotherapy as a therapeutic modality. Much more has been done in Europe, as compared to the United States, to establish standards for certifying neurolinguistic skills as a part of the psychotherapeutic repertoire. Wake notes, in discussing the development of standards, that they "could be developed to ensure that they are more flexible and had a greater emphasis on generic psychotherapy rather than proceduralised models generated from the methodology of NLP." This is what European organizations have done, including the European Association for Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy (EANLPt) and the Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy and Counseling Association (NLPtCA).

In my estimation one of the primary accomplishments of the book is emphasizing the importance of a broader scope, beyond isolated NLP methods, to appreciate and realize the potential of NLP as a psychotherapeutic treatment modality. NLP was originally formulated in the 1970's by Richard Bandler and John Grinder by analyzing and modeling the work of Virginia Satir, family systems therapist; Fritz Perls, Gestalt therapy; and Milton Erickson, psychotherapist and hypnotherapist. Wake suggests that much of their valuable work has not always been sufficiently incorporated with NLP and is underrepresented in some presentations of NLP and neurolinguistic psychotherapy. She also cites the work of many others that have contributed to the rubric of neurolinguistic psychotherapy and NLP by examining and elaborating additional points gleaned from Erickson, Satir, and others. Additionally Wake discusses neurolinguistic psychotherapy in the context of some of the newer findings in neuroscience regarding the way in which psychotherapy rewires pathways in the brain, contributing to emotional and behavioral change.

Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy provides historical, theoretical, and methodological information to help the reader understand the place of neurolinguistic psychotherapy in the area of psychotherapy in general. Wake discusses the influences that have informed the principles, skill-set, and presuppositions of NLP. Further, Wake reviews some of the fundamental presuppositions of NLP and puts these in the context of neurolinguistic psychotherapy. She addresses how neurolinguistic psychotherapists have taken the fundamental principles of NLP and adapted them to work effectively in therapeutic context. Wake places neurolinguistic psychotherapy in the context of other forms of psychotherapy. She discusses the influences of, and the interrelationships between, various schools of thought as they relate to NLP; including humanistic and existential psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, Gestalt psychotherapy, systemic and family therapy, psychodynamic therapies, and cognitive behavioral therapy. The many areas she considers establish the theoretical basis for NLP practice and brings this up to date with consideration of emerging findings in neuroscience.

Over the course of several chapters Wake discusses neurolinguistic psychotherapy's perspective on personality, language and cognition, and patterns of programming in a highly integrative manner. She discusses numerous areas where neurolinguistic intervention appears particularly effective, for instance through the use of the language patterns offered by NLP. She considers findings in the neuroscience regarding emotional dysfunction and cognition. She frequently cites Shore (2003) who discusses the neurological impact of psychotherapy and information on the developing brain and how these processes can be impacted through psychotherapy and with NLP techniques. She notes that there is evidence that neurological re-patterning occurs through the process of psychotherapy. She notes that "there exists an enormous potential for linking research and theories in neuroscience to the existing theories in psychotherapy" including NLP. She also comments that "neurolinguistic psychotherapy provides a methodology that facilitates new neurological patterning by changing the different aspects of internal process, internal states or external behavior."

Wake also makes a critical distinction between NLP as an "applied psychology" and NLP's use as part of a therapist skill-set in the broader context of psychotherapy. The integration of NLP technology with therapist skills such as theoretical grounding, psychological knowledge, rapport skills, understanding of process, and self-awareness essentially constitute neurolinguistic psychotherapy. She notes that it is important to appreciate that the therapist plays an active role in the development of the brain in the clients treated, particularly where affective states are present. She posits that if neurolinguistic psychotherapists stay within a programmatic model of working (essentially an applied psychology manner of working) they are not honoring elements of therapeutic process that were valued by Erickson, Satir, and Perls; on whose work NLP was built. Wake encourages neurolinguistic therapists to place the programmatic modeled aspects of NLP in context of the broader therapeutic relationship, as doing so is often needed to create lasting cognitive, emotional and behavioral change through psychotherapeutic processes.

Wake discusses the status of research validation of NLP and neurolinguistic psychotherapy. She reports that there are a limited number of studies available at this point demonstrating the efficacy of NLP in the context of psychotherapy. She discusses a few studies that have. Wake notes that compared to other modalities of psychotherapy, neurolinguistic psychotherapy is "incredibly young" having only recently, since the early 1990's, begun to define and develop standards for the use of NLP technology specifically in the context of psychotherapy. Because of its brief history as a modality of psychotherapy, it has difficulty in demonstrating its effectiveness in sufficiently large numbers to be considered as a therapy of choice. She cites efforts that are being made to rectify this situation, including the NLP Research and Recognition Project. Wake makes several recommendations regarding productive directions for research.

In summary, Wake's descriptions lead the reader to a greater appreciation of the richness of the neurolinguistic approach and of what it has to offer as a psychotherapeutic tool. Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy is an extremely important and useful book. It will be an excellent text for graduate level NLP and/or neurolinguistic psychotherapy course work. This book captures the essence of what is needed to move neurolinguistic techniques into the realm of respected science rather than just applied psychology. A position she articulates effectively is that viewing NLP primarily as an applied psychology has lessened its credibility and perceived utility as psychotherapeutic intervention. This is changing as NLP is more systematically being integrated into clinical practice, but further progress is needed. She correctly argues that NLP needs to be placed in the context of a broader view of human functioning and the functioning of the brain in order to achieve its deserved place as a respected therapeutic modality.

Rich Liotta, Ph.D., is a Psychologist, Author, Trainer, Consultant, and Photographer. As an Author and Fine Art Nature Photographer he strives to encourage appreciation and stimulate potentials toward growth and change. As a Trainer and Consultant he is passionate about providing tools to help people enrich and transform their lives. He offers workshops and seminars, including sponsored events, on a variety of topics. He is a Certified Trainer of Neuro-Semantics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and Ericksonian Hypnosis. He owns Enrichment Associates Consultation & Training (http://enrichmentact.com/) with his spouse Rosemary. His more community oriented blog is http://changepathsblog.com/. He is a believer in human potential, abundance, and beauty in the world!


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Wednesday, 8 February 2012

Psychology For Teaching - A Review

The focus of this review is on part five of Lefrancois text, Psychology for Teaching, which contains ninety eight pages. This section is on instructional leadership which is subdivided into four chapters. Motivation, teaching, discipline, classroom management and individualized instruction are topics covered in chapters eleven to fifteen. Generally, classroom practice requires a great deal more than what had been gleaned from educational psychology and reported in the first ten chapters. It demands, among other things, interpersonal and management skills of the highest order, patience, imagination, enthusiasm and worth.

In chapter eleven, the writer examines theories of motivation which attempt to answer questions about the initiation, direction and reinforcement of behavior. A theory is advanced of Maslow's hierarchy of needs with physiological needs at the lowest and the need for self actualization at the highest. The primary sources of arousal (a concept with physiological and psychological components) are the distance receptions (vision and hearing) whereas the secondary sources include all other sensations. The relationship between arousal and motivation is discussed. The teacher can be seen as the source of stimulation that maintains student arousal at low or high levels. Weiner's attribution theory of motivation which is presented is based on the assumption that individuals attribute their successes and failures to internal (ability or effort) or external (difficult or luck) factors. Achievement motivation and the need to avoid failure appear to be closely related to attribution theory. Students whose need for achievement is high are typically more internally oriented and consequently more likely to accept personal responsibility for the outcomes of their efforts. Attribution-changing programs attempt to move students in the direction of making more effort attributions. Feelings of competence or better still positive concepts appear to be related to internal sources of attribution and consequent feelings of powerfulness.

In chapter twelve, the writer distinguishes between management and discipline and shows the relationship between them. The former is presented as an umbrella term which embraces establishing routines, learning students' names, setting and applying rules consistently, arranging frequent occasions for the original use of praise, using humor and paying attention to classroom environment and climate. Corrective discipline is involved when preventive discipline has not been successful in curbing the appearance of a disciplinary problem. Methods used include reasoning, reinforcement, use of models, extinction and punishment. In addition to maintaining classroom order, teachers should also attend to the development of social and affective skills in children. Generally, the chapter outlines a number of strategies and principles that might be effective in preventing and/or correcting disruptive behavior in the classroom, looking at the application of behavior motivation. The single most important point it makes is that prevention is far more important than correction.

The penultimate chapter details the application of science (to the extent that psychology is a science) and of technical advances in the business of educating. Accordingly , this chapter describes programmed instruction, the use of computers in education and specific teaching techniques founded on distinct theoretical principles. Although the writer presents a number of different methods for dealing with individual differences, these are not always highly effective for practical reasons. Programmed instruction individualizes instruction largely by allowing students to progress at their own rates and sometimes also by providing additional help for learners who experience difficulty. Although the writer presents the linear and branching programs, he observes that research has not shown that either is superior. However, they teach effectively as adjuncts to other methods of instruction. Optimistic and pessimistic views about the computer are presented even though it would appear as if computer literacy may soon be one of the goals of the educational process. Among the computer's advantages are its almost unlimited memory capacity, problem-solving capabilities and its versatility of presentation modes. Among its disadvantages are the difficulties associated with preparing and obtaining software. Evaluations of major system approaches to individualizing instruction indicate that typically those have moderately positive effects in elementary and secondary schools but more highly positive effects at the college level. Conclusions about attribute-treatment interactions are typically very modest. In the final analysis, the two variables that appear to be most highly related to school success are ability and previous achievement.

The ultimate portion, chapter fourteen, describes the various methods by which performance can be measured and evaluated, the reasons why assessment is important, and some of the abuses and misuse of assessment procedures. Measurement is seen as the use of an instrument to gauge the quantity of a property or behavior. Evaluation on the other hand is the making of a decision about quality, goodness or appropriateness that is based on the results of careful and thoughtful measurement. A teaching model can be represented in terms of goals, instructional strategies and assessment. Educational goals are important in determining both strategies and assessment. Measurement can be divided into nominal (categorical), ordinal (using ranks), internal (employing equidistant scales but with an arbitrary zero point) or ratio (based on a true zero). The writer believes that educational measurement pretends to be on an interval scale (usually); it is indirect rather than direct. He presents four indexes of test validity, face, content, construct or criterion-related. Common uses of standardized tests are for special education placement. To certify student achievement, judge the competency of teachers and evaluate schools and standardized achievement tests typically provide one or more of the following: age-equivalent scores, grade-equivalent scores or percentiles. Sometimes they also provide tables for transforming scores to one of several normally distributed standard scores. These scores are meaningful because one knows what their mean and standard deviations are, for example Z-scores (mean=0, standard deviation=1), T-scores (mean=50, standard deviation=2). The writer differentiates between the essay and objective tests. When constructing essay examinations, efforts should be directed toward sampling processes that are not easily measured with objective tests as well as toward measuring relevant course goals. In conclusion, the writer forcefully argues that the teacher should try to behave as sensibly as a bear who persistently faces the front of its footprints.

A major criticism is that the writer did not state the category of people the book focuses attention on. Most of the issues raised and examples given are more relevant to psychology and teaching at the primary and secondary levels. One expects this clarification to be made in a text which has been edited several times. Furthermore, commenting on the computer as a device that counters the negative effects of television is a bit far fetched. The writer fails to take into consideration such damaging effects like immoral and blasphemous websites. Most of the issues in the book could be found in other books on psychology and teaching. The above notwithstanding, the section under review is highly practically-oriented.

AUTHOR SIGNATURE
Oliver L.T. Harding, who obtained his GCE O & A Levels from the Sierra Leone Grammar School and the Albert Academy respectively, is currently Senior & Acting Librarian of Fourah Bay College, University of Sierra Leone. He is a part time lecturer at the Institute of Library, Information & Communication Studies (INSLICS), Fourah Bay College and the Extension Program at the Evangelical College of Theology (T.E.C.T) at Hall Street, Brookfields; Vice President of the Sierra Leone Association of Archivists, Librarians & Information Scientists (SLAALIS); a member of the American Theological Library Association (ATLA) and an associate of the Chartered Institute of Library & Information Professionals (CILIP). His certificates, secular and sacred, include: a certificate and diploma from the Freetown Bible Training Center; an upper second class B.A. Hons. Degree in Modern History (F.B.C.); a post-graduate diploma from the Institute of Library Studies (INSLIBS, F.B.C) a masters degree from the Institute of Library, Information & Communication Studies (INSLICS, F.B.C.) and a masters degree in Biblical Studies from West Africa Theological Seminary, affiliate of the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, where he won the prize for academic excellence as the Best Graduating Student in 2005. Oliver, a writer, musician and theologian, is married (to Francess) with two children (Olivia & Francis).
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Tuesday, 7 February 2012

Book Review - The Rainbow Machine by Andrew T Austin

Copyright: 2007 Real People Press

The Rainbow Machine is a book definitely different from most books on NLP or hypnosis. As Steve Andreas notes in his introduction to Andy Austin's book, it notes that the book indicates the spirit of neurolinguistic programming and he uses all these with "utmost skill, creativity, and outrageous playfulness." Steve Andreas touts Austin's creativity in writing the book. Clearly, the book is not just one of basic techniques or one that spells anything out. Instead it is a book written in many ways in the spirit of the Haley classic, Uncommon Therapy.

It has multiple short chapters. Essentially it has 56 chapters, if one includes the appendix on sub-modalities, all in a short 220 pages. The stories are brief, many of them anecdotal, illustrating the use of various neurolinguistic, as well as provocative therapy, types of techniques. Also spattered within the text are several chapters which provide some useful outlines of different things, such as on learning in general, the hemispheres of the brain, suggestions, binds, reframing, the yes set, deletion, and in the appendix a discussion of sub-modalities. This is in the midst of what are mostly different case examples dealing with different problems utilizing NLP, language, and other creative methods to facilitate change. It also has a very interesting chapter called The Right Man Syndrome (Narcissism), which discusses some of the patterns of thought and belief in individuals who are narcissistic.

Austin is quite tongue-in-cheek at times, but also shows a great deal of insight into the human psyche and how to facilitate change. This is an entertaining and thought provoking book. It is a great book to read when one needs a break from some of the dryer more technical books on neurolinguistic programming. It is a wonderful book to pick up and just read a chapter or two. The book makes no grand claims. At times he seems content to observe and describe human variation. Other times he gives compelling instances of creative intervention and efficient change.

In sum, this book is unique and well worth reading. This book inspires excitement about the process of being a change agent utilizing NLP to help others in their lives.

Rich Liotta, Ph.D., is a Psychologist, Author, Trainer, Consultant, and Photographer. As an Author and Fine Art Nature Photographer he strives to encourage appreciation and stimulate potentials toward growth and change. As a Trainer and Consultant he is passionate about providing tools to help people enrich and transform their lives. He offers workshops and seminars, including sponsored events, on a variety of topics. He is a Certified Trainer of Neuro-Semantics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and Ericksonian Hypnosis. He owns Enrichment Associates Consultation & Training (http://enrichmentact.com/) with his spouse Rosemary. His more community oriented blog is http://changepathsblog.com/. He is a believer in human potential, abundance, and beauty in the world!


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Book Review - 'The Five Love Languages' By Dr Gary Chapman

When I first looked at the book cover I thought 'Oh wow, this looks a bit too sweet for me' but I still bought it as it came recommended by one of my clients as a good and interesting read. This is now many years ago and I have since used ideas from this book with every couple that comes to work with me.

Summary

After many years of counselling, Dr. Chapman realized that individuals had different ways in which they showed love to another person and, for whatever reason, they are usually drawn to someone showing it in a different way. He came up with five basic categories: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.

More in details

This book explains the different love languages (categories) in detail, how to discover your primary love language and talks about what happens through the different stages of a relationship.

Dr. Gary Chapman injects his explanations with many stories of people who attended his seminars and who, using the theory of 'The Five Love Languages', have changed the level of satisfaction in their relationship or marriage significantly.

I specifically liked his theory of the love tank and the idea that we pay with the currency of our primary love language whereby the account of the receiver might prefer another currency. He suggests also that couples play a game where one partner asks the other: 'What could I do today that would make your love tank rise?' By taking responsibility for your own needs and likes and stating what that would be you allow your partner to collect more and more ideas about how to make the most effective payments into your emotional love tank.

If you now are curious about which one your primary love language is: There is a test at the end of the book, both for him and for her.

About the author

Dr. Gary Chapman is a pastor, speaker and author. He teaches his 'Five Love Languages' and speaks about marriage, family and relationship, throughout the States and also internationally. He has written over thirty books and created five video programs.

'The Five Love Languages' was published in 1992 and since then has been translated into more than forty different languages. This book has sold over five million copies making it a perennial New York Times bestseller.

Recommendation

More than the number of books sold is the effect this has had on so many couples I've been working with. This book is simple to read for both husband and wife and has practical tips on how to make your relationship more satisfying and happy. This is basic knowledge for any couple, married or not.

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Nathalie Himmelrich is the founder of 'Reach for the Sky Therapy' on Sydney's Northern Beaches and specialises in 'relationship related issues'. She is working with individuals and couples using techniques ranging from Counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming to Journey Therapy. She supports clients in their personal growth in a supportive and professional environment.

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Being Genuine - A Book Review

Being Genuine is simply stated, one of the best books I have read all year. It very clearly and effectively conveys a process for communicating with others in a genuine and non-judgmental way. Thomas D'Ansembourg is a student of Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication Process but rather than simply restating Rosenberg's principles, he enhances and adds a new dimension to non-violent communication based on his experience as a psychotherapist and youth counselor. Anyone who learns and practices his four simple steps will quickly discover that their everyday communication becomes clearer, less judgmental and less conflictual because they are taking responsibility for their feelings and actions and creating a space to connect. I have never come across an easier way to show people how they can get their needs met without fear of conflict.

Originally published in France in 2001, the English translation has only recently been published in North America. As D'Ansembourg cares deeply about the language he uses, the book is beautifully and elegantly written, a joy to read with a terrific translation. He wears several hats at appropriate times in the book. As a psychotherapist he delves into the psychology of why and how we become disassociated from ourselves. Being nice is a function of neglecting our needs, of not listening to ourselves so we can fulfill the needs of others. As a philosopher, D'Ansembourg examine larger theoretical issues of the individual in society and the meaning and value we place on language. As a coach, he is gentle and thoughtful but persistent as he guides us through our confusion and anxiety with practical, easy to follow steps and appropriate actions.

As one who reads a lot of self help books (and contributed to the genre) I am happy to say that this book is a cut above the rest. The principles he outlines are so basic and so crucial to good communication, every child should be taught them at an early age. He makes the point that if a fraction of military budgets were devoted to teaching communication skills, there would be fewer conflicts and less crimes of aggression. So go our priorities. The basic problem is more of us are taught to 'be nice' rather than to be genuine. The result is that we grow up servicing the needs of others and even when we know something is wrong, we lack the language and the skills to be our authentic selves. As a coach I see this "servicing" behavior all too often. Having a resource like Being Genuine makes my task of transforming clients easier.

I can best describe Being Genuine as a highly readable manual of authentic communication, full of examples, theory and genuine warmth. D'Ansembourg describes the four steps:
Observation: We are reacting to something we observe, we hear, or we're saying to ourselves
Feeling: The above observation generates within us one or more feelings.
Need: The feelings guide us to our needs.
Request: Aware now of our needs, we can make a request or implement concrete action.
That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. The trick for the learner of being genuine is to break free of old beliefs and patterns but this can be done with a bit of awareness and some practice. D'Ansembourg believes that what passes today for communication is aggressive and violent. For instance when judgments and blame come up, it's like slamming a door in the conversation. The receiver of this treatment usually responds defensively and often returns the blame and aggression. His method of communication is like opening a door and inviting your partner through it to come in and have a chat by the fire. But rather than waiting on them hand and foot, it's about articulating your needs and feelings to help ensure that you get seen by the other. If their needs are not the same as yours then a compromise can be negotiated, but this is only possible when each side is aware of each other's needs.

Although his respectful techniques may be a bit too touchy-feely for the office bully, the spirit of his teaching can easily be adapted and integrated into a clearer awareness of how humans communicate or more likely, fail to communicate. I have integrated D'Ansembourg's simple and effective techniques into my coaching with great success, especially for clients who have spent too much of their lives being nice at their own expense. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn how to communicate authentically or to any professional who is in the business of working with clients who can use a boost in the communication area, which in my experience is just about everyone.

Bradley Foster - Mid Life Coach

I have written extensively on coaching and midlife. As a coach I help my clients get clarity about where they are right now and how they got where they are. I help them define and get in step with their beliefs, values, strengths and goals and work according to their agenda. I come to coaching and leadership from a background as a consultant, an artist and as a trained therapist. I work with my clients to close the gap between who or what they say they are, or want to be, and who or what they actually are now, as expressed by their actions. Then we develop goals and come up with a life plan and a road map.

Website: http://giantstepscoaching.com/

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I have just published a book on self coaching called: Deep Coaching: A Guide to Self Directed Living which is available through my website. Visit my website to download the first 3 chapters of the book for free.


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Monday, 6 February 2012

Book Review - RESOLVE: A New Model Of Therapy by Richard Bolstad

Copyright: 2002

Publisher: Crown House Publishing

Richard Bolstad's book RESOLVE: A New Model of Therapy is excellent on several levels and is highly recommended for anyone interested in advancing the science of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) or the use of NLP is psychotherapeutic practice. It is extensively referenced, citing research, other NLP developer's ideas, and non-NLP models of change. This is not a book focused on NLP "pyrotechnics" (his term), rather it is integrative and practical. Bolstad makes connections between NLP and other models of psychotherapy. He presents a perspective on the utility of NLP as an explanatory model, as NLP concepts are useful for explaining what therapist from many orientations do. His RESOLVE model is essentially a well articulated synthesis of the use of the NLP in the context of an NLP informed psychotherapy model.

The book provides a historical perspective on NLP and psychotherapy. Bolstad makes the point that NLP's roots and assumptions have connections with other forms of psychotherapy. He devotes a chapter providing a clear, science based, linkage between NLP and how the brain functions. Bolstad discusses several aspects of the model (representational systems, submodalities, emotional states, etc.) and relates these to what has been learned in recent years about neurological functioning. For instance, his discussion of the state-dependent qualities of neural encoding and the implications of this for intervention was fascinating.

Bolstad makes the point that research into NLP is still needed to make it more useful for psychotherapists. He notes that since the earliest NLP writings this need has been recognized, "but it was 20 years before the field of NLP itself began to respond effectively to this need." He goes on to describe several studies published over the last ten years that examined the use of NLP in psychotherapy that found positive results. But research supporting that NLP is successful "in a general sense" has not been enough to draw a great deal of attention to it among psychotherapists. He also notes that few attempts to link NLP techniques and those used in other models of psychotherapy have been made since NLP's inception, with a notable exception being Practical Magic: A Translation of Basic Neuro-Linguistic Programming into Clinical Psychotherapy by Stephen Lankton, published in 1980. Bolstad notes that it has been more than 20 years since Lankton's book and "both NLP and psychotherapy have evolved." Clearly Bolstad feels that more attention to the use of NLP in psychotherapy is warranted. A major accomplishment of this book is to systematically address how NLP fits into psychotherapy as it is practiced today. Among other things, he advocates the incorporation of NLP interventions into the context of the therapist preferred modality to speed the achievement of many specific results.

In my estimation one of the critical points Bolstad makes relates to what type of information constitutes data supporting the validity of NLP as a change technology. While advocating more clinical research, he also contends that "Because much of NLP is a metadiscipline (a way of analyzing and describing other disciplines), research conducted in these other disciplines will often validate NLP hypotheses (page 6)." This seems to be a recurrent theme as he draws parallels between what various therapeutic modalities do, many of which have more direct empirical support (than NLP per se), and the NLP interventions that use similar processes; just described with different terminology.

In Chapter three, Choices for Change, he contends that most therapeutic modalities have some variant of the techniques of NLP interventions. Bolstad divides NLP interventions in 10 general categories: anchoring, installing new strategies, changing sub modalities, trance-work, parts integration, timeline changes, linguistic reframing, changing interpersonal dynamics, changing physiological contexts, and tasking. He gives examples of the use of these intervention types then describes how these processes are evident in other models of psychotherapy. This part of the book was both provocative and integrative and left me wanting more of this useful style of analysis. It highlighted how change work from various modalities can be understood utilizing NLP as an explanatory model. This book illustrates what many therapists who utilize NLP already know, "NLP" is evident in what therapists do whether they call it NLP or not. He provides information to assist therapists trained in other systems to begin to see the "NLP" in what they do.

Chapter four, the last major section of the book, presents the RESOLVE model. The model is an NLP informed framework for the process of psychotherapy. Though the core ideas (such as presuppositions) and skill-sets (such as rapport building skills) are from NLP, it is clear how his model would be useful for therapists even they are not using NLP change processes per se. RESOLVE is an acronym with each letter corresponding to a part of the model. The letters denote the following: "R" denotes the Resourceful state the therapist should generate in themselves in order to most effectively work with the client. "E" denotes Establish rapport. "S" is Specify the outcome, noting that establishing a well formed outcome is a central NLP premise for change work. "O" is Open up [the client's] model of the world. In some ways this is an intervention but it is also a preparatory task, testing their commitment to change. "L" in the RESOLVE model is Leading to desired state. This is a specific change intervention or process designed to achieve the specified outcome. "V" is Verify Change. "E" is Ecological exit. He discusses each component of the model in detail and continued to make connections and place his ideas in the context of the broader field of psychotherapy. The concepts Bolstad chose to explain and explore were also very useful, practical, and compelling.

In the book Bolstad also makes several points differentiating NLP techniques from a broader view of NLP in the context of psychotherapy. For instance, he makes the point that the techniques of NLP are not simply tools to be used; they are tools requiring a context to be most efficacious. Specifically he notes that "For a person new to NLP, it is tempting to think of "leading" as the real NLP change process. In fact, each step of the RESOLVE model is equally significant in the achievement of change. The steps overlap and reinforce each other, forming a system that increases the chances of success dramatically."

Another point he discusses is that a frequent criticism about NLP and psychotherapy is that NLP fails to understand the importance of the therapeutic relationship. Bolstad argues that, on the contrary, NLP psychotherapy has its foundation in a new and innovative framing of this relationship. It is "educative and consultative" rather than therapeutic in the traditional sense. He believes that how the NLP practitioner structures this relationship is one NLP's most original contributions to the therapeutic theory. He notes the importance of this relationship in facilitating the effectiveness of the change processes themselves.

In sum this book is impressive. Bolstad's RESOLVE model is one way to formulate the integration of NLP in psychotherapy and it is very well done. His supporting citations and reasoning are equally valuable. It is essentially structured as a text book, replete with references. He notes in his introductory chapter if you want to know the research behind what you are doing, as opposed to just an introduction to NLP, "this book will give you those extra pieces." The book delivers on this promise. It is packed with useful information, explanation, and ideas to consider. Psychotherapists, NLP practitioners and trainers, and researchers need to read this book.

Rich Liotta, Ph.D., is a Psychologist, Author, Trainer, Consultant, and Photographer. As an Author and Fine Art Nature Photographer he strives to encourage appreciation and stimulate potentials toward growth and change. As a Trainer and Consultant he is passionate about providing tools to help people enrich and transform their lives. He offers workshops and seminars, including sponsored events, on a variety of topics. He is a Certified Trainer of Neuro-Semantics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and Ericksonian Hypnosis. He owns Enrichment Associates Consultation & Training (http://enrichmentact.com/) with his spouse Rosemary. His more community oriented blog is http://changepathsblog.com/. He is a believer in human potential, abundance, and beauty in the world!


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Book Review - 'Why Marriages Succeed or Fail And How To Make Yours Last' By Dr John Gottman

Dr. John Gottman says: 'If there is one lesson I have learned from my years of research it is that a lasting marriage results from a couple's ability to resolve the conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship'. The following book is not just a couples therapist's opinion but a compilation of the findings of the work of a relationship expert and scientist who researched his topic over the past 40 years.

Summary

In this book, Dr. John Gottman gives his readers the ability to find out more about their relationship through self-tests and evaluations. Beyond that this book also provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, techniques and proven strategies to improve your relationship or marriage.

More in details

Based on his years of research with real-life couples, Dr. John Gottman first answers the question 'What makes marriage work?' By reading this book you will learn that there are significantly different marriage styles, which he calls 'The Good, The Bad and the Volatile' and that frequent arguing doesn't necessarily have to lead to divorce if other factors are in balance.

Dr. John Gottman is famous for 'The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse', the warning signs in every relationship tumbling towards martial disaster. Dr. Gottman argues that these pitfalls - criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling - can be observed in couples who are moving towards less and less satisfaction in their relationship.

This book is not just another set of opinions of a relationship therapist, instead this is the result of his work with thousands of couples over many years of empirical study. This research has enabled Dr. Gottman to predict which couples relationships will last with 94 percent accuracy where normal relationship experts are only able to predict this in 10 percent of their cases.

About the author

As mentioned above Dr. John Gottman has collected significant amounts of data researching couples in what he calls 'The Love Lab'. He has also written and co-authored 40 books and published 190 academic articles. He has appeared on television in shows like Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News and Oprah and published some of his work in various publications like The New York Times, Women's Day, Reader's Digest and Psychology Today, just to name a few.

Together with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, they founded the Gottman Relationship Institute; they schedule appointments for marathon therapy and lead relationship workshops.

Recommendation

This is a 'must read' if you are interested to improve your relationship and really, who doesn't? The best case would be if both, husband and wife, would read the book, but it is already very beneficial for one to read and introduce the concepts to the other.

Personally John Gottman's work forms the basis of my work with couple clients in my practice and his concepts work with great success.

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Nathalie Himmelrich is the founder of 'Reach for the Sky Therapy' on Sydney's Northern Beaches and specialises in 'relationship related issues'. She is working with individuals and couples using techniques ranging from Counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming to Journey Therapy. She supports clients in their personal growth in a supportive and professional environment.

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Sunday, 5 February 2012

"The Great Field - Soul at Play in a Conscious Universe" by John James - Book Review

So many people today are asking questions about why we are here, the truth behind the soul and the greatest spiritual debate last year seemed to be about whether we really attract things into our lives through our thoughts. This book examines the relationship between soul and science and so much more, and it makes more sense than most of the hundreds of books that I have ever read on the subject of spirit. The author suggests that the first couple of chapters might be too full of scientific jargon and that they can be skipped but I found his translation to be very easy to understand and full of valuable information.

What is the Great Field? "A holistic tapestry of independent influences" (page 66, Paul Davies). The author describes the Field as "does not exist in either space or time. It exists everywhere simultaneously. It has no movement, but only presence." I thought his beautiful description of the Great Field was best summed up by the following: "She was utterly still and attentive. It felt that there was no time, no space and yet every sense was exquisitely attuned to each subtle nuance of the physical plane where she sat. She was within everything, and without, simultaneously, and flooded with such knowing and compassion of that perfection that there was nowhere else to be but now. This was the realization of Samadhi, of the pure bliss of the saints and the gurus of every denomination. She had crossed the veil within herself and had united the material world of time and the desires of the senses with the Great Field. There was no distinction any more, but only pure bliss and unbearable compassion. (page 15).

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen" (page 247 - by a six-year-old) is my favorite of the many wonderful quotes throughout the book that is used to define concepts. He also uses many examples of scientific studies and clinical therapeutic studies to prove how our fields of energy impact not only our immediate environment but people, animals and environments a long distance or time away. Holistic healing, reincarnation and the soul's purpose are also up for discussion in the book.

"The Great Field: Soul at Play in a Conscious Universe" is packed full of good information. I don't want to give away too much more except to say that it is definitely worth reading for those people who want answers about spirit.

Energy Psychology Press (2007)

ISBN 9781604150155

Reviewed by Cherie Fisher for Reader Views (1/08)


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Saturday, 4 February 2012

A Review of The Family Crucible

The Family Crucible, by Napier and Whitaker (1978), reads like a novel while at the same time laying down some of the fundamental concepts of family systems therapy. It is a case study of one family's experience in family therapy. While the therapy shifts from daughter to son and then to parent interaction to daughters and son, it is finally the couple's marriage that must be treated if issues are to be resolved. Even the grandparents are brought into therapy to get at the family of origin issues.

The book opens with a quote from James Agee and Walker Evans: "The family must take care of itself; it has no mother or father; there is no shelter, nor resource, nor any love, interest, sustaining strength or comfort, so near, nor can anything happy or sorrowful that comes to anyone in this family possibly mean to those outside it what it means to those within it; but it is, as I have told, inconceivably lonely, drawn upon itself as tramps are drawn round a fire in the cruelest weather; and thus and in such loneliness it exists among other families, each of which is no less lonely, nor any less without help or comfort, and is likewise drawn in upon itself."

Through the telling of the Brice family's story, Napier and Whitaker illustrate underlying dynamics such as structural imbalances in the system and how child focus is a typical method used by unhappy couples to avoid dealing with their own marital and family of origin issues. Fusion, triangles, individual and family life cycle stages, family-of-origin themes, polarization, reciprocity, blaming, and the hierarchy and characteristics of living systems are among the concepts that are explained and illustrated through this family's therapy experience. David and Carolyn, an unhappily married couple, are the parents of Claudia (the IP), Laura, and Don. The book is well written and hard to put down once you start reading it.

Whitaker has been criticized in the field, because many people believe that he does not really have a theory. It is believed that it is only his charismatic personality that drives his treatment. I disagree. I believe that one has only to read his chapter in The Handbook of Family Therapy (1981) and see these concepts illustrated in The Family Crucible to realize the depth and breadth of his theory.

In the service of reviewing the book, it is useful to consider Whitaker's background and key theoretical concepts. He began as an OB/GYN and had no formal psychiatric training. He became involved in treating schizophrenics after World War II. Whitaker was interested in understanding disturbed relationships in a familial context and in determining whether serious symptoms such as those in psychotics might be reinforced by dysfunctional family patterns and beliefs.

From 1946 to 1955, Whitaker (1981) became involved in treating schizophrenia with a type of aggressive play therapy. In fact, Whitaker's most formative training was in a child guidance clinic where he learned play therapy (Whitaker, 1981). Whitaker used some outrageous methods, including learning to talk "crazy," arm wrestling, use of a baby bottle, and rocking, all of which were rooted in his training experience.

At the same time that he developed these techniques, he developed a kind of pyknolepsy, wherein he would fall asleep in the middle of a session. He would dream about his relationship with the patient being treated, and then make his associations to the dream a part of the therapy session (Whitaker, 1981). In justifying his unique techniques, Whitaker emphasized that "Each technique is a process whereby the therapist is developing himself and using the patient as an intermediary, that is the therapist is interacting in a primary process model" (p. 188).

In 1946, Whitaker (1981) moved to Emory, where he became chair of the Department of Psychiatry. It was here that he developed dual co-therapy with Dr. Thomas Malone. In 1964, Whitaker worked with David Keith to develop a postgraduate specialty in MFT at the University of Wisconsin School of Medicine. The development of symbolic-experiential methodology required students to ". . . take everything said by the patient as symbolically important as well as realistically factual" (Whitaker, 1981, p. 189).

Whitaker (1981) defined health as ". . . a process of perpetual becoming" (p. 190). He emphasized that what is most important in a healthy family is ". . . the sense of an integrated whole. . . The healthy family is not a fragmented group nor a congealed group. . . The healthy family will utilize constructive input and handle negative feedback with power and comfort. The group is also therapist to the individuals" (p. 190). Whitaker also defines the healthy family as ". . . a three to four generational whole that is longitudinally integrated. . . maintaining a separation of the generations. Mother and father are not children and the children are not parents" (p. 190). Whitaker also looked at the degree of volitional access parents and children have to outside support and interests. The families of origin in healthy families are on friendly terms.

Importantly, Whitaker looked to spontaneity as a marker of healthy communication in families. The healthy family allows each member to admit to problems and to identify competencies. Thus, it is emphasized that healthy families allow great freedom for the individual to be himself. Whitaker (1981) states that ". . . normal families do no reify stress" (p. 190).

Whitaker (1981) emphasized that a basic characteristic of all healthy families is the availability of an "as if" structure, which permits different family members to take on different roles at different times. Roles result from interaction instead of being rigidly defined. They are defined by various conditions, including the past, present, future, culture, and demands of the family at a given time. On the other hand, Whitaker defined the dysfunctional family as ". . . characterized by a very limited sense of the whole" (p. 194). Lack of flexibility at times of change, covert communication, intolerance of conflict, lack of spontaneity, lack of empathy, blaming and scapegoating, a lack of playfulness, and little sense of humor are all markers of unhealthy families from Whitaker's perspective.

Whitaker placed heavy emphasis on the technique of co-therapy. In The Family Crucible, for example, the reader constantly witnesses Whitaker and Napier turn up the power. Whitaker and Napier's process techniques illustrated in the book are designed to disorganize rigid patterns of behavior directly in session. The exposure of covert behaviors is considered to be the family's misguided effort to stay in tact by submerging real feelings. There is a decisive here-and-now quality to symbolic-experiential interventions used in The Family Crucible, with a focus upon creating and then addressing en vivo emotional dynamics in therapy session.

Napier and Whitaker insisted that the entire Brice family be present in therapy. Indeed, Whitaker's symbolic-experiential treatment model considered it crucial to begin the treatment process with the entire family (Napier and Whitaker, 1978). Whitaker (1981) has emphasized that "Our demand to have the whole family in is the beginning of our 'battle for structure.' It begins with the first phone call" (p. 204). He asserts that it is ". . . difficult to do process-focused family therapy without the children" and the ". . . experiential quality of family therapy requires the children's presence" (p. 205). In the book, Napier and Whitaker (1978) frequently attempt change through playing and teasing, especially with Laura, Don, and Claudia. Members from David and Carolyn's families of origin are invited to session. Whitaker (1981) states that in arranging for four generations to come to interviews as consultants that he is ". . . helping to evolve a large system anxiety" (p. 204). Experience is privileged over cognitive engagement throughout the treatment with the Brice family, as it is conceptualized that experience trumps cognitive growth in this theory.

Napier and Whitaker (1978) describe their co-therapy as symbolic of a professional marriage. Early treatment of the Brice family involved the co-therapists making decisions. Symbolically, they viewed the family as a baby taking its first steps. As such, the family required structure, so it follows that the therapists made unilateral decisions. Once Napier and Whitaker had won the battle for control, the therapists, like parents raising children, soften considerably. In the middle phase of the Brice family's treatment, decisions about treatment were made more collaboratively. Again, the model for this process is increasing differentiation of the family. As therapy proceeded, the therapists took increasingly smaller roles, watching like proud parents as the Brice family became more integrated into changing themselves independent of the therapists. Whitaker (1981) clarifies that the therapy process ". . . begins with infancy and goes to late adolescence, where the initiative is with the kids, who then bear responsibility for their own living" (p. 107).

Throughout the book, it is implicitly and explicitly emphasized that the self-development of the therapists is the most important variable in the success of therapy. Napier and Whitaker (1978) acted as coaches or surrogate grandparents to the Brice family as therapy progressed. They were active and considered themselves to be the forces for change. Rather than a blank screen, they acted as allies of the family system. Especially in the beginning, Napier and Whitaker were directive. They used silence, confrontation and other anxiety-building techniques to unbalance the system. They acted as catalysts, who picked up on the unspoken and discovered the undercurrents represented by the family's symbolic communication patterns. The co-therapists privileged their subjective impressions.

More than anything else, Napier and Whitaker (1978) had the courage to be themselves. They knew how to meet the absurdities of life and how to bring out people's primary impulses. They believed strongly in the healing power of the human being, and, even more, of the family. They insisted that the family be in contact with its own craziness, play, and honor the spontaneous through their own modeling and directing.

The reader could observe how this symbolic-experiential therapy team moved through several stages. In the early part of treatment, the co-therapists battle for structure and they are all-powerful. In the mid-phase, the parental team functioned as stress activators, growth expanders, and creativity stimulators. Late in treatment, the co-therapists sat back and watched, respecting the independent functioning of the family. Whitaker (1981) holds that the "The sequence of joining and distancing is important. It is a lot like being with children. A father can get furious with his kids one minute, then be loving the next. We take the same stance with families" (p. 205). Thus, the role of the co-therapists was dynamic over the course of treatment with the Brice family.

Whether as a training therapist or a lay reader, it is inspirational to study the therapy offered by Napier and Whitaker (1978) in The Family Crucible. Self-disclosure, creative play, teaching stories, spontaneous interpersonal messages, the use of metaphor, and the sharing of parts of the therapists' lives that reflect a working through in their own living are used generously. Process techniques intended to activate confusion around Claudia, the identified patient, unbalance the system, and open up authentic dialogue between marital partners and between the generations of extended families are used. It is emphasized, however, that it is not technique, but personal involvement that enabled Whitaker and Napier (1978) to do their best. It is continually illustrated how symbolic (emotional) experiences are fundamentally formative in the treatment of families, illustrated poignantly with the Brice family. Therefore, such experience should be created in session. To expose the covert world beneath the surface world is the most curative factor for the Brice family, is it is for all families. By getting inside the Brice family's unique language and symbolic system, the therapists were able to move the family's awareness from the content level to the symbolic level.

In THE FAMILY CRUCIBLE, Napier (1978) describes the curative process of Whitaker's family therapy from the perspective of the co-therapist. The courage to embrace life's absurdities involves the courage to be oneself, to the point of even sharing your free associations and thoughts with families. Daring to participate in the lives of the families, or even inviting them to share in your own life in order to get them in contact with submerged associations, helps families to get to the primary process level. In fact, the book underlines that the force of the therapist is central to treatment, so that the family's encounter with the therapists is the primary curative agent. The goal of psychotherapy with the Brice family, as with all families, is to provide therapeutic experiences, and questions should be fired off in ways to unbalance the family. When Whitaker asks Carolyn, "When did you divorce your husband and marry the children?" he acts as an agent of change. He does not care whether the client likes him. And it is here that one realizes that the success of the psychotherapy depends on the emotional maturity of the therapist. The person of the therapist is at the heart of what good psychotherapy is all about. Since Whitaker states that therapy for the therapist is crucial, experiential training is essential for the therapist who would provide his/her clients with experiential treatment. In conclusion, this highly readable, inspirational, and useful book deserves a central place on every therapist's bookshelf.

References
Whitaker, C. A. (1981). Symbolic-experiential family therapy. In A. S. Gurman & D. P.
Knistern (Eds.), Handbook of family therapy (pp. 187-225). New York: Brunner/Mazel.
Napier, A. Y., & Whitaker, C. (1978). The family crucible: The intense experience of
therapy. New York: HarperCollins.


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Friday, 3 February 2012

Fathers Custody Rights - Custody Strategies For Men Review

Dr. Bricklin and Dr. Elliot are well regarded experts in the field of child psychology and have 30 years experience helping fathers to adopt the correct approach in fighting for custody of their children on the break up of a relationship.

The first key point in their book is that it is much easier to win custody of your child at the outset than it is to have a case reopened later.

This is for the obvious reason that courts are reluctant to upset the existing arrangement that a child enjoys with the existing custodial parent who will be looking after the day to day life of the child.

Because of the 2 doctors experience in the field they claim that they have gathered a huge amount of information in the field from dealing with child care experts, judges, lawyers and health professionals and claim that there are a number of legal and psychological strategies that need to be employed to give you the best chance of winning child custody first time.

They outline in their book 14 key behaviours which successful parents use in custody disputes.

Probably even more importantly they outline the strategies that are likely to be used against dads in their custody battle..and claim to have perfected strategies for situations where the child has been turned against the father and embittered by the other parent.

They also supply a state by state supplement which tells you exactly what the visitation and custody laws apply in individual states. The book is not cheap, but it is very thorough and if you find yourself in the unfortunate situation of a failing or failed relationship and there are children involved then you will probably recognise that the long term benefit of adopting the correct child custody strategy will pay you back ten fold in the long run.


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Thursday, 2 February 2012

Book Review of "The Pocket Parent Coach" by Tina Feigal

The Pocket Parent Coach: Your Two-Week Guide to a Dramatically Improved Life with Your Intense Child [Soft Cover]

by Tina Feigal

112 pages, $19.95

ISBN-13: 978-1592982370

Nonfiction

Maybe your experience becoming a parent is like that shared by many others-it is a festive occasion where you contemplated the joyful experiences that were sure to come. Not too long into your development as a parent, perhaps, you wished that children came with an instruction manual. As our children grow and develop, sometimes we feel as if we are losing our minds trying to make children comply with our desire for peace and obedience in the home. Today's media enhanced culture only seems to exacerbate the problem.

Tina Feigal, a licensed school psychologist, has written an intriguing work in The Pocket Parent Coach that addresses dealing with intense children. By definition, intense children are not only those with certain maladies, such as: ADHD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and the like. The author has developed what she calls "present moment parenting" and it would work for children of all types between 3-18 years of age.

According to the author, children with intense behaviors have overly active brains that seek to match energy levels with what they're experiencing internally. So much of this quest causes children to "act out" in inappropriate ways. The informed parent will militate against negative energy matching and will instead seek to "download" positive energy into the children to validate their self-worth while simultaneously diffusing negativity. The method: revise current parenting strategies by attempting to "parent in the present."

This brilliant book presents a two-week program to help parents deal with an intense child by actually eliminating power struggles or even directly focusing on maladaptive behavior. Instead of punishing the wrongdoing, you have had a family meeting beforehand where you inform the child that all you'll say in the future is, "Broke a rule. Take a break." The child has rehearsed this method previously and is empowered to partner with you as you attempt to redirect them toward more positive behavior.

This book is highly recommended for parents struggling with intense children. The examples presented seem to lend themselves more readily to parents of younger intense children. All parents can benefit from the ample resource section filled with log sheets to personalize; daily reminder slips to be used around the home to encourage "present moment parenting;" and even a 60-minute audio CD where the author presents a fitting summary as a Q&A for parents.


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Book Review - Psychology - The Imposter Phenomena

The Imposter Phenomena is real, or rather it is real in the minds of those who wear its heavy burden that is. The Imposter Phenomena happens when people reach a point of praise from their fellow man, notoriety, position or status that is beyond their own level of self-esteem. How does this occur?

Well, it is quite common due to the down-playing of ego and self-esteem in our societies trying to make everyone equal. As folks reach greater and greater heights in politics, career, sports or their other endeavors, they fill as if they have to keep the image up and they feel fake.

Indeed, some are, but much more likely they experience a form of the Imposter Phenomena. And to fully explain this principle in full detail, I'd like to recommend a book to you to read, it's truly a classic in psychology and it will help you understand exactly what specifically the imposter phenomena really is and what it is not.

"The Imposter Phenomena; Overcoming the Fear that Haunts Your Success" by Pauline Rose Clance - 1985

In this book you will learn how to recognize this psychological phenomena in yourself and others. You will see how folks try to keep up that false image and understand where it comes from. Once you learn the how, why and what of the Imposter Phenomena, you will be able to help yourself and others who suffer from such dilemmas.

The author states the problems and challenges in this book in a 'matter of factly' way and if you are in denial of needing this advice, you may find at the end that it has burst your bubble, but you will in fact learn how to cope with these issues. Much of the book discusses how to recognize this psychological problem in others and how to deal with them correctly without causing conflict. In fact, I know one Internet Entrepreneur who greatly suffers from this, and I have found ways to deal with him, and I believe this book will help you deal with the afflicted people you know too.

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